[Please hold while Sougo musters up every ounce of his willpower to not 1)scream, 2) throw his phone all the way across the room, or 3) perish on the spot.
Feigning calmness isn't going to work, but he's damn well going to try.]
Please excuse my earlier outburst.
I'm... not entirely sure what you're referring to.
I don't... really know how to respond to this, but...
[Hello???? There are too many implications layered within this?! And as Mitsuki probably also expected, Sougo's been typing and erasing his words over and over. But eventually, he manages to send:]
While I realize that this is a terribly invasive question and don't want you to feel obligated to answer it, um... Just to be completely clear, are you implying that you're looking for advice about a male partner?
[Mitsuki stares at the message for a very, very long time, and he kind of wants to scream? He probably should have... Told Sougo about Albert before all of this? Things between them happened so quickly that it just kind of slipped his mind - and, besides, Albert is so... Proper. Old-fashioned. He's not sure he should just put their relationship on blast.
...
But now he's talking about his dick so it's too late for all that.]
Yes. Yes, I am. A man much taller than I am, and we all know I know that you've been with a man much taller than you. So.
How does it... Work???
[Not that it's, like, hard to be much taller than Mitsuki.]
[Leave it to Mitsuki to drop such a huge revelation like it's nothing. This is so much to take in that Sougo's thoughts are spinning too quickly to keep up with, but it would be rude to leave Mitsuki on read for however long it would take to fully comprehend the situation (which, to be fair, could be a while). Mitsuki's sleeping with a man? And he's bottoming?! Was everyone this open to the idea this whole time?! And most importantly of all, is Sougo really obvious enough that Mitsuki thought to come to him first?!?! ...No, stay focused.
If Mitsuki's coming to him for advice on something that must have been difficult to bring up, shouldn't he do his best to work through the shame threatening to drag him under and answer properly? God, he wants to refute that last part about his own sex life with everything he has. But in addition to it being the truth, this isn't the time.
Okay, calm down. This is for Mitsuki's sake! They're mature adults that can absolutely have a composed, collected conversation about being penetrated. Mitsuki his given him advice so many times that it's only right! (But really, they're talking about this?!?!)]
I understand. If you're trusting me with this, I'll do my best to thoroughly and accurately answer your questions.
Ah, um... well, before anything else, are you familiar with the basics?
[Mitsuki wonders what Sougo’s thinking right now. He did just sort of drop a bit of a bombshell on him, so he can understand that he might need some time to process things.
But still. Time is precious, Sougo.]
Yes, I know how sex works.
[A pause, because he knows he literally just asked how it does, so he sighs to himself and knows he has to elaborate.]
I know how it works in theory, but I’ve never been with someone so tall! It’s kind of daunting but I want to do it, so I want to be prepared just in case it happens. As much as I don’t want to admit it, I’m not a large man!
[He knows he’s actually quite small, and he hates it.]
And he’s as tall as Tsunashi-san, so it makes me nervous...
[A few minutes pass before Sougo finally gathers his thoughts enough to approach the topic, but once he does, the "Sougo is typing..." notification doesn't stop for what amounts to well over half an hour. Eventually, the notification finally vanishes for another minute or two, and then without a moment of warning...]
First and foremost, please bear with me, as I've never given advice like this before. I'm going to approach it like I would if I were giving this advice to anyone else, so please keep that in mind.
Given that you referred to him as your partner, are you familiar with his body? According to what I've read, height can be a determining factor to a certain extent, but it doesn't always dictate how well endowed someone may or may not be. However, in my experience, your own physical and mental preparation are far more important than anything else.
Assuming that you intend to be the receiving partner, I would highly suggest practicing on your own before anything else. In addition to discovering what you like and which positions feel the most comfortable to you, it's important to learn your own limits and be patient with what your body is capable of. Always use more lubricant than you feel you need and give yourself ample time to become used to the way your body reacts. Every website and book I've looked at recommends starting with your fingers, but if you become more comfortable, going beyond that to ensure you can take something of a certain size is always an option.
Most importantly, try to exercise patience with yourself. It's far easier than you may think to get swept away by enthusiasm, but being reckless could not only lead to pain or injury faster than you may expect, but make your partner worry even if you don't want to stop. Go slowly when you're first starting out, and take breaks or stop and try again the next day if you need to. Taking several days to work yourself up to the size you're anticipating seems to be common.
While it can be enjoyable to engage in preparation together with your partner, for your first time, I would recommend preparing thoroughly before you meet in order to make things simple and less intimidating. Bring everything you think you may need, and communicate and be honest with your partner. If doing this is also new to him, you may need to take things particularly slowly. And finally, I would recommend always doing this outside of periods of transformation or other influences until you're comfortable enough doing it normally.
There are a variety of resources available to us here, so I would recommend looking into them as well. I can't say I've kept all of this information in mind myself, given various circumstances, but this is the gist of my own experience and what everything I've researched has recommended. Please try not to think too deeply on it in relation to myself, and remember that preparation is more important than any shame or embarrassment you may feel.
[At first, Mitsuki wonders if Sougo is going to reply at all. Maybe he should just look into things himself...? He doesn't trust porn, but considering what this place is like there might be...
Resources.
He keeps checking his phone out of curiosity, and that's when he sees the Sougo is typing... message.
[Excuse him, Mitsuki's message is also a lot to unpack?! For multiple reasons they can get into later, but most importantly:]
I've kept the majority of it in mind! Really. But Lunatia's transformations made things... difficult, barring several details that I absolutely refuse to share. I take more caution now...
[That's probably saying a little too much, but Mitsuki's being so wildly open that it's only right to not backpedal.]
I'm sorry if this is too personal, but when you say "Albert," are you referring to Moriarty-san?
I will. But this conversation is supposed to be about you, not me.
[And thank goodness for that.]
I have, though we don't know each other that well. He mentioned you when I brought up being an idol, but I wouldn't have guessed that you had that sort of relationship.
I'm incredibly happy for you, Mitsuki-san. You deserve a kind partner.
[Oh. He's not expecting to get something so sincere? He's not sure what to say for a moment - he doesn't know how to explain his relationship to anybody, much less himself. It's all happened so quickly but he can't deny the incredible fondness he already feels for Albert - maybe it's just because this place encourages intimacy, or because he knows he'd never be able to have anything even close to this at home, but...
It's nice, nonetheless, to be so close to someone.]
Things happened really quickly, and I'm not really sure what we mean to each other yet, but... I don't mind seeing where things go.
And I don't want to ruin the mood or anything, but...
[How did that unexpectedly sweet moment end just as quickly as it began?! Sougo was about to gently reassure him that labeling a relationship is far more difficult here, but now that this is where they're going...
Seeing each other when Mitsuki comes back home is going to be so awkward that it may just be easier to lock himself in his room for the foreseeable future.]
That's... a deeply personal question based on your own preferences, so you would be better off researching your options or asking a shop clerk to assist you.
I would offer to go with you, but I don't know if I'd make it out alive.
I'm not going to ask a stranger for sex toy advice, especially not someone who's job is to sell me those toys! How do I know I can trust them to not just sell me whatever's most expensive?!
You'd probably be fine... You can't be that embarrassed by it, right? Besides, you could get something for yourself!
I'm grateful that you have more trust in me than someone who would be more knowledgeable, but...
[But? Hold that thought.]
Mitsuki-san?! I wouldn't be able to do something like that! I'll gather the courage to go with you if you really insist, but I absolutely refuse to buy anything for myself!
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How do you handle it when your... Partner is much larger than you?
I don't have an icon anywhere near panicked enough for this.
[Please hold while Sougo musters up every ounce of his willpower to not 1)scream, 2) throw his phone all the way across the room, or 3) perish on the spot.
Feigning calmness isn't going to work, but he's damn well going to try.]
Please excuse my earlier outburst.
I'm... not entirely sure what you're referring to.
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I’m trying to ask how you deal with someone having a huge dick. I would have thought you know more than me.
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I don't... really know how to respond to this, but...
[Hello???? There are too many implications layered within this?! And as Mitsuki probably also expected, Sougo's been typing and erasing his words over and over. But eventually, he manages to send:]
While I realize that this is a terribly invasive question and don't want you to feel obligated to answer it, um... Just to be completely clear, are you implying that you're looking for advice about a male partner?
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...
But now he's talking about his dick so it's too late for all that.]
Yes. Yes, I am. A man much taller than I am, and we all know I know that you've been with a man much taller than you. So.
How does it... Work???
[Not that it's, like, hard to be much taller than Mitsuki.]
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If Mitsuki's coming to him for advice on something that must have been difficult to bring up, shouldn't he do his best to work through the shame threatening to drag him under and answer properly? God, he wants to refute that last part about his own sex life with everything he has. But in addition to it being the truth, this isn't the time.
Okay, calm down. This is for Mitsuki's sake! They're mature adults that can absolutely have a composed, collected conversation about being penetrated. Mitsuki his given him advice so many times that it's only right! (But really, they're talking about this?!?!)]
I understand. If you're trusting me with this, I'll do my best to thoroughly and accurately answer your questions.
Ah, um... well, before anything else, are you familiar with the basics?
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But still. Time is precious, Sougo.]
Yes, I know how sex works.
[A pause, because he knows he literally just asked how it does, so he sighs to himself and knows he has to elaborate.]
I know how it works in theory, but I’ve never been with someone so tall! It’s kind of daunting but I want to do it, so I want to be prepared just in case it happens. As much as I don’t want to admit it, I’m not a large man!
[He knows he’s actually quite small, and he hates it.]
And he’s as tall as Tsunashi-san, so it makes me nervous...
[He doesn’t want to get broken by dick, Sougo.]
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First and foremost, please bear with me, as I've never given advice like this before. I'm going to approach it like I would if I were giving this advice to anyone else, so please keep that in mind.
Given that you referred to him as your partner, are you familiar with his body? According to what I've read, height can be a determining factor to a certain extent, but it doesn't always dictate how well endowed someone may or may not be. However, in my experience, your own physical and mental preparation are far more important than anything else.
Assuming that you intend to be the receiving partner, I would highly suggest practicing on your own before anything else. In addition to discovering what you like and which positions feel the most comfortable to you, it's important to learn your own limits and be patient with what your body is capable of. Always use more lubricant than you feel you need and give yourself ample time to become used to the way your body reacts. Every website and book I've looked at recommends starting with your fingers, but if you become more comfortable, going beyond that to ensure you can take something of a certain size is always an option.
Most importantly, try to exercise patience with yourself. It's far easier than you may think to get swept away by enthusiasm, but being reckless could not only lead to pain or injury faster than you may expect, but make your partner worry even if you don't want to stop. Go slowly when you're first starting out, and take breaks or stop and try again the next day if you need to. Taking several days to work yourself up to the size you're anticipating seems to be common.
While it can be enjoyable to engage in preparation together with your partner, for your first time, I would recommend preparing thoroughly before you meet in order to make things simple and less intimidating. Bring everything you think you may need, and communicate and be honest with your partner. If doing this is also new to him, you may need to take things particularly slowly. And finally, I would recommend always doing this outside of periods of transformation or other influences until you're comfortable enough doing it normally.
There are a variety of resources available to us here, so I would recommend looking into them as well. I can't say I've kept all of this information in mind myself, given various circumstances, but this is the gist of my own experience and what everything I've researched has recommended. Please try not to think too deeply on it in relation to myself, and remember that preparation is more important than any shame or embarrassment you may feel.
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Resources.
He keeps checking his phone out of curiosity, and that's when he sees the Sougo is typing... message.
That doesn't disappear.]
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What the hell is Sougo even writing?]
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There's a lot to unpack here, Sougo. Firstly, I'm not actually sure how big Albert's dick actually is, but, well. It has to be huge, right?
[In all of this waiting he... Forgot he never actually specified who the man he's Probably Definitely Going To Sleep With is.]
Secondly, I suppose that all makes sense.
But more importantly...
WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU'VE NOT KEPT THIS IN MIND? SOUGO, YOU SHOULDN'T BE DOING ANYTHING TO HURT YOURSELF!!!!
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I've kept the majority of it in mind! Really. But Lunatia's transformations made things... difficult, barring several details that I absolutely refuse to share. I take more caution now...
[That's probably saying a little too much, but Mitsuki's being so wildly open that it's only right to not backpedal.]
I'm sorry if this is too personal, but when you say "Albert," are you referring to Moriarty-san?
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You better be more cautious...
[He's also now morbidly curious about Lunatia, but. He's probably already taken too many years off Sougo's life.]
Yes! That's him. You've met him?
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[And thank goodness for that.]
I have, though we don't know each other that well. He mentioned you when I brought up being an idol, but I wouldn't have guessed that you had that sort of relationship.
I'm incredibly happy for you, Mitsuki-san. You deserve a kind partner.
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It's nice, nonetheless, to be so close to someone.]
Things happened really quickly, and I'm not really sure what we mean to each other yet, but... I don't mind seeing where things go.
And I don't want to ruin the mood or anything, but...
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Seeing each other when Mitsuki comes back home is going to be so awkward that it may just be easier to lock himself in his room for the foreseeable future.]
That's... a deeply personal question based on your own preferences, so you would be better off researching your options or asking a shop clerk to assist you.
I would offer to go with you, but I don't know if I'd make it out alive.
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You'd probably be fine... You can't be that embarrassed by it, right? Besides, you could get something for yourself!
[THAT DOESN'T MAKE THINGS BETTER, MITSUKI.]
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[But? Hold that thought.]
Mitsuki-san?! I wouldn't be able to do something like that! I'll gather the courage to go with you if you really insist, but I absolutely refuse to buy anything for myself!
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[...Sougo. Sougo, please.]
Well, I guess you wouldn't HAVE to buy anything if you don't want to, but wouldn't it be helpful?
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On the extremely off chance that I find something I'm interested in, I can always go back and purchase it at a later time.
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I assure you, I've lost more than enough of it today.
I'll go with you, alright? I really don't mind.
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